Pick Your Own Body


The 5 Bodies Theory on Dieting
This is my personal theory based on 6 years experience of helping hundreds of people lose weight, and my knowledge as a Neuro Linguistic Programmer of how the mind works.
Please accept that in an attempt to explain my theory as simply as possible I will be making assumptions and stereotypical generalisations that will cover most people who regularly go on diets. I cannot cover everything every reader may think or feel, although I will have experienced most things whilst dealing with clients demonstrating the same things that make you unique.


So here goes… (if you watch the video version it may help to have a look at the diagram first)

In our head we have several body shapes, sizes or weights that affect us each in their own way. I use 5 distinct ones to explain why, for some people, a diet might only work for a period and that even when the target is reached it is only a very small percentage of people who remain at that weight. This article is not intended for them it applies to you, the reader who regularly tries different diets, loses weight and then puts it back on, usually plus a bit! I will explain the “plus a bit” but let’s see if I can help you understand how dieting works, or more importantly, why if it hasn’t how a simple mind change can make it work. This is intended to help you break that cycle and enjoy your last diet and maintain the body you deserve.

The 5 Bodies
1, The “No Way!” body. Is the body that we will never have. The one that repulses us so much when we visualise it that it stops us taking some of the actions that would get us there. You may or may not be consciously aware of it.
2, The “Uncomfortable” body, This is the one you have when you are triggered to action, when you start that new diet. This is smaller than the No Way body by a safe margin.
3, The “Comfort” body is not the body you want, it’s the body you settle for. It’s a balanced blend of the amount of effort required to stay the same versus the life style you enjoy.
4, The “Me” body is a realistic one requiring time and effort to maintain it and you are happy enough with it to pay the cost of keeping it that way. By “cost” I mean a sensible and balanced life style including healthy eating, drinking and exercise. This body will require your thoughts being “in the right place” and will reward you with a happiness that comes, not from being “slim”, but from being in balance and control of your life style and improved habits. I will explain the balance zone in the next blog.
5, The “Fantasy” body is one that, whilst you may really want it and may have had it before, at an unconscious level you now see the cost too high. Even if you reached it you could not keep it for long because it is not in balance with your lifestyle and circumstances. It is a body that doesn’t respond to excuses and will soon show if you let things slip. In fact it will be so much hard work that deep down you know it is likely to make your life miserable. As with the “No Way” body you may or may not be consciously aware of it.

The Yo-Yo Diet Zone
At some stage you will become so uncomfortable with your body that it triggers another diet decision. This may come from a upsetting comment, seeing your reflection or a photo, not fitting in your clothes, a medical issue or a thousand other things. When you take that decision to action there is a tendency to have a magnified view to lose far more than is realistic (the Fantasy body).
Our Fantasy body has the same impact on our mind as the No Way! body has. At an unconscious level it doesn’t see you realistically ever getting there. The Fantasy body is often based either on the unrealistic expectation we think others have of us, or our own vision usually of some years ago when you only weighed part of what you do now and possibly had a slim waist that you loved. The problem is that when you think about being the size you were then, you were also the age you were then. That vision will not help you achieve this body again, because your unconscious will see both things being needed for that to happen and in analysis will see that you need to get younger for it to happen. As that is not possible the associated slim figure is also seen as not possible.
So we set off from the Uncomfortable body with that decision to start yet another new diet (often changing diet type yet again in the hope of success this time). We head for something beyond the comfort body, towards but not necessarily wanting to reach, or being aware of the Fantasy body. This is our intent as we set off, this time it will work, we will have a body we can be happy with. As you will see on the diagram the intent arrow sets off heading in the right direction, as with all diets there are things we will miss and new things we have to do, there is effort.
When we set off our intent and motivation is driven by our annoyance at ourselves having let our bodies get to a point we dislike or even loath. This is the motivation of “away from” a negative momentum driven by anger and fear. It will remain a motivation only while you are angry or fearful. So a short while into the diet when you and others are noticing the weight loss, comments such as “you’re looking good” and “you don’t need to lose any more” are starting to happen.

You are also less unhappy with yourself, less fearful, less angry. The diet is now seeming harder work as the pay off between the amount of effort and how bad you felt seems unbalanced towards the effort! Those of you motivated by a positive mentality may continue on at this point the rest will start to “cheat”, have “treats” for how well they have done, possibly the odd glass of wine under the “I deserve it” self talk mental category. As this slippage occurs it is so easy to settle for your Comfort body so that the balance returns between a lower motivation and the lower effort required.


Gradually as the diet is forgotten old habits slip back and over a period of time your weight increases as your body’s metabolic rate has slowed from the diet. You not only put the weight back on but it adds a bit with your bodies new improved method of storing fat! This happens because you have now taught the body that food is not readily available and therefore it would be wise to store it. Obviously this then forms a loop of creeping up to the point when you feel so bad about yourself that it comes up to decision point yet again for a diet. This may move that uncomfortable body and decision time to a few pounds heavier and the depressing “failure” you feel about not keeping the weight off produces more cortisol the known chemical that makes you more hungry!
Now that’s the rather depressive loop of why it doesn’t work out of the way, so let’s talk about how you can make it work. Ta Dah!
The Maintainable Body you really want

My work as a weight loss consultant means I see more people with weight loss problems than I do slim ones. I also help people with health problems and to be effective in both arenas it is always best to study those who achieve rather than those who do not. So I regularly talk to slim people to ask their secrets. I have yet to meet one, older than 25, who doesn’t put in a great deal of thought or effort into maintaining their figure. The tale about people who can eat what they want and not gain a pound remains a myth in my research. Just as people with really excessive weight are often secret eaters, most slim people have a tendency to do their worst dietary eating in public. This gives a distorted view of what people really eat.
The answer to getting a body you can maintain is to decide on a realistic “Me” body, even thought it is a weight that currently seems unlikely because you have always stopped before you got that far. You never reached there before because it wasn’t what you were reaching for. You were always seeking to get to the top of Everest but without learning mountaineering! No wonder you got stuck at base camp!

So plan for a “Me” body that is realistic in every way. Work out the price you will need to pay in terms of exercise and in changing what and how you eat and drink. Remember that you lose millions of cells each day to replace them with new ones. The new ones can only be built out of what we absorb by eating, drinking and what we expose ourselves to: sunlight and other penetrative rays and waves, so make sure you eat and drink what you want to be built from and that your environment is right.

The blueprint (plans) for how each cell is built comes not just from our DNA but also our thoughts. Our thoughts produce the chemicals that drive our body and our new cells adapt to those chemicals and the environment they are being built for. They follow the plan but adapt it to suit your internal environment. You are the host of your new cells, they adapt to you, that means you are in control of the new you. Your choice, make it a good one.

I am currently writing a book and the working title is “Head for a New Body”. This will cover all aspects of getting a “Me” body, and will be written as a truly hypnotic read! Should you be interested please let me know and I will let you know first when it is ready.

Until then enjoy every mouthful of what you eat, eat slowly and drink plenty of water, it’s a great start.

If you have been overweight since young there are many aspects of this blog you will not recognise. It is likely that you have something holding you back from achieving weight loss, and this will include a self sabotage process that you may recognise looking back on weight loss attempts. I will be addressing this in future blogs, please call back soon, or contact me or leave a message.
Wishing you all you want for yourself, Steven

I have been a weight loss consultant for over 8 years.

You have a higher risk of health problems dependant on your waist size:
For Women a waist of 31.5 inches (80cm) or below has no additional risk. A waist of between 31.5 and 34.6 inches (88cm) doubles the risk and above 34.6 inches is 2.6 times the risk.
For Men a waist of 37 inches (94cm) or below has no additional risk. A waist of between 37 and 40.2 inches (102cm) doubles the risk and above 40.2 inches is 4.5 times the risk.

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